My daughter had announced that she wanted to get her ears pierced this weekend. I'm glad she decided to. She was blown away when she was told that she had a choice in making that decision. After several inquiries about how the piercing process was done, she was certain to get it done.
I had an inkling that she might have been teased for not having any piercings at all. Girls can be a tease, but at least it's not drugs, alcohol or sex. She would have to make that responsible choice whether or not to give in to peer pressure and emotional harassment.
Friday, December 30, 2011
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Sweet Victory
I wouldn't think that I would come this far to admit this, but here it is. Before I left for work today, I asked my daughter if she knew how I had known about her self-indulgence. She looked at me inquisitively and shook her head.
"You see it in me, don't you?" I asked her.
The guilt sullen expression on her face gave me the answer I need. I told her that if there was anything she wanted to emulate from me, it would be the positive conduct of my well-being; not my ominous emotions. It is reassuring that my daughter is intelligent enough to know the concepts of what is right and wrong. I am now cautiously vigilant in what I say and do - knowing full well that I am being scrutinized ( I don't know how else to phrase it) by a child who idolizes me.
I hope in this lesson, I don't lead her to think what I say and do are conclusive.
"You see it in me, don't you?" I asked her.
The guilt sullen expression on her face gave me the answer I need. I told her that if there was anything she wanted to emulate from me, it would be the positive conduct of my well-being; not my ominous emotions. It is reassuring that my daughter is intelligent enough to know the concepts of what is right and wrong. I am now cautiously vigilant in what I say and do - knowing full well that I am being scrutinized ( I don't know how else to phrase it) by a child who idolizes me.
I hope in this lesson, I don't lead her to think what I say and do are conclusive.
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
When Indulgence get on your nerves
The reason for writing this blog about my daughter is not to disdain her in public, but to acknowledge the learning curve I have come to experience raising a child as smart and witty as I am.
I had overlooked this perception because I had believed that a mother would sacrifice anything to fulfill their children's happiness and well-being. I've been a mother for almost a decade now. Honestly speaking, I did not expect my child to be so complacent. I rarely spared the rod when she misbehaves. Her behavior behooved me to look back to my childhood.
After reading my old journals, I sat in wonder. How could I have been so blind? She has been emulating my idiosyncrasies. The truth was right in front of me. With such insight, I'm going to laugh myself silly and tell her she's in a lot of trouble if she doesn't set herself straight.
If it weren't for my parents' constant nagging, I would have ended up in ugly places.
I had overlooked this perception because I had believed that a mother would sacrifice anything to fulfill their children's happiness and well-being. I've been a mother for almost a decade now. Honestly speaking, I did not expect my child to be so complacent. I rarely spared the rod when she misbehaves. Her behavior behooved me to look back to my childhood.
After reading my old journals, I sat in wonder. How could I have been so blind? She has been emulating my idiosyncrasies. The truth was right in front of me. With such insight, I'm going to laugh myself silly and tell her she's in a lot of trouble if she doesn't set herself straight.
If it weren't for my parents' constant nagging, I would have ended up in ugly places.
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